The Question That Gets Teens Talking

Do you have a hard time getting teens talking?

I mean really, actually talking to you? Like about their true thoughts, feelings and experiences?

It can be difficult to connect with teens. And it is 100% normal for teens to start closing off to adults and wanting to connect more to others their own ages.

I've already shared with you the question I'm begging you to stop asking emotional teens (you can read about it here if you missed it:

the question that gets teens talking

"What's on your mind?"

This question is the perfect question to ask teens to get them talking because it's open-ended, unassuming and leaves room for them to tell you as little or as much as the feel comfortable sharing.

Another reason I love using this question is it also lets teens know that you care and are ready to listen to them when they do want to open up with you.

What if they respond with "nothing"?

This is a common question I get. And there's a great follow-up to get around this.

"....and what else?"

This follow-up really works because teens may not really share the main thing on their minds right away. (Hence the likely "nothing" response), Though when you ask about what else is murking around in there, they're usually a bit willing to share more.

Now it's your turn!

Tell me what's on your mind. I want to make sure my tips and strategies are helping you in the way you need. After you've commented or e-mailed me (, make sure you tell me what else is on your mind.

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Mallory Grimste, LCSW - Teen Therapist

Mental Health Counseling for Anxious Tweens, Teens, and Young Adults | Woodbridge, CT