New Year, New You? (I don't think so...)

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Every year when the clock strikes midnight, a new year is born. And then.... everyone starts talking about all the changes they plan to make over the course of the year.

The thing is- focusing on a "new" or "better" you can be really, really discouraging. 

"What we focus on expands" ~ Danielle LaPorte

That's right- if we focus on the negative, we attract more negativity into our lives. That's because our mindset is trained to look for and notice evidence for our negative thoughts and beliefs.

Survival Instincts

Our brains and bodies are literally evolved to focus and deeply remember the negative. After all, if we forget that fire is hot, we might continue to try to touch it each time we see an open flame (no bueno!) The thing is, we're already pretty good at surviving these days as a species. However, our evolutionary tendencies haven't quite caught up to this concept.

Try this for Success >>>

Instead of focusing on all the negative things you don't like about yourself, why not celebrate what's already great about you and grow on that!?

This week in my Teen Girls Therapy Groups, each teen is getting their very own Gratitude Jar for 2018. If you haven't heard about these, they're pretty cool and it's really easy to make your own! You take a container (I'm using mason jars) and each time something happens that you're grateful for, appreciative of, or just want to celebrate- you write that down on a piece of paper and throw it in the jar.


Some people like to wait until the end of the year to read through all their positive experiences, though I'm all for going through and revisiting these anytime you like! Want to get a head start on celebrating? Join the party and share your successes in the comments below!

Want even more positive influences in your teen's life? Teen Girls Therapy Group is a weekly space where your teen girl can connect with others dealing with anxiety, depression, or low self-esteem. By talking and learning together, they learn to feel better about the relationships they have with themselves and others.

If you want to secure your teen's spot- complete your complimentary 15-min parent phone screening at 203-228-8971 or completing the contact form here.

Mallory Grimste, LCSW - Teen Therapist

Mental Health Counseling for Anxious Tweens, Teens, and Young Adults | Woodbridge, CT